Category: Be Your Best

  • Observe Your Judgements

    Observe Your Judgements

    As I have thought about my own psychology, I realized how quick I am to judge other people or situations. I have found it’s so easy to judge another if they do something that I wouldn’t do or their level of work is not up to my standards.

    Another realization I have come to is this type of judgment is counter-productive. What good does it do to harbor negative feelings someone else? Realizing that it only creates negative energy within me, I have created a daily reminder in my calendar: Observe and let go of your judgements.

    It’s easy to subconsciously judge others without even realizing it. So I made this a daily reminder in an attempt to become more self aware. The ultimate goal is to immediately release any judgement the moment I catch myself doing it.

  • Your Life Depends On It

    Your Life Depends On It

    When you want to do something big in life, like start a business or a new career, act like your life depends on being successful. Don’t think of your goal as something that would be “nice to have one day if I am lucky.” It has to become your life’s mission, and something you live or die by.

    If you approach your goals with this level of seriousness, you can’t lose. The people who do great things in life do so without this deadly serious mentality. Because if you take this mentality, you can’t lose.

    Attack what you want to do with everything you’ve got. Most people don’t understand what it is to really go for something.

  • Who do you want to be?

    Who do you want to be?

    A good question to ask yourself, especially when you are young, is who do you look up to and want to be like when you get older? Ideally you have at least a few people who can be good role models for you. It’s even better if you know these people personally and meet with them on a regular basis.

    Once you have your short list of who you want to be like, the key then is to “act as if.” Ask yourself how this person would act in a given situation? What would she do with her free time? How would she treat other people? What kind of education would she receive? How would she dress? How disciplined and committed is she? You can model every aspect of your life around what this person or group of people would do.

    And the interesting thing is time passes quickly and before you know it you are a peer among this group that you looked up to. It is a self-fulfilling prophesy. In the beginning you are aspiring to be like her and “acting” the part. In the end, you become that person.

  • You are not your backhand…

    You are not your backhand…

    You are not your performance or result or test score. You should not measure your worth by how you perform or how other people see you. This will make you unhappy and anxious, and you are much more than that. If you identify with your backhand, you will judge and evaluate yourself that much more.

    This came from The Inner Game a Tennis. Highly recommended reading!

  • Now or later?

    Now or later?

    A successful, well-lived life requires a lot of hard work. I have noticed there are generally two approaches to this hard work. You can work hard early on in your life and benefit from the fruit of this hard work. Or you can choose to not work hard early in life, in which case you will work hard later in life. This usually means working later in your life or trying to play catchup to those around you who have been working hard over many more years.

    You will have to work hard. You choose when you want to put in the work. My opinion is it’s best to work hard early in life so you can slow down later and enjoy the benefits. Of course, if you’re still having fun, you can continue to work hard later in life as well. And you’ll have that much more of an advantage compared to those who haven’t been working as hard…

  • When you need to think….

    When you need to think….

    Distractions are ubiquitous, subtle and insidious. They have a way of stealing your attention without you realizing it, for weeks, months, or even years at a time. I am not trying to be hyperbolic.

    Any time you are distracted, your thinking is unconsciously shallow and limited. Distractions can be obvious, like being fully engrossed in a video game or movie. Or they can be subtle like having the radio on in the background.

    I find that any time I have any kind of distraction, I can’t be fully creative and strategic in my thinking.

    This became blindingly obvious to me on my commutes to work when I lived in Newport and drove to Los Angeles every day. Sometimes I would listen to audio books on the drive, and sometimes I would not listen to anything. When I had the radio or audio books playing in the background, I would rarely have a deep insight or creative thought. Conversely, almost every time I turned off all of the distractions interesting thoughts or ideas would bubble up. This deep thinking has enabled me to become much more effective in my life.

    Any time you have to make an important decision or you want to think strategically, I would highly recommend you eliminate every distraction. Put away the cell phone. Turn off the TV and radio. Sit in a quiet room with nobody and nothing around except you, a desk, and a blank piece of paper for capturing your thoughts.

    This is going to feel so uncomfortable when you do it that your mind will scream for entertainment and distraction. Resist the urge to give in if you don’t have an insight right away. Sit there and wait. The vision or strategy or next move will come to you.

  • Growing In Life

    Growing In Life

    If you cannot be corrected without being offended, then you’ll never truly grow in life. – Professor Richard Feynman

    Professor Feynman is someone you should definitely get to know. I highly recommend his book Surely You’re Joking, Mr. Feynman.

  • Practice Makes Perfect: Wrong

    Practice Makes Perfect: Wrong

    The expression people throw around is “practice makes perfect.” This is wrong because if you aren’t practicing perfectly then you are only reinforcing bad habits and wasting your time. The truth is, and your mindset should be, PERFECT PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT.

  • Your Focus

    Your Focus

    Focus on what you can control. There is no point in worrying about what is out of your control, like whether the economy is in a recession. Instead, take measure of what you can personally affect and take action to make your life better.