Author: Dad

  • When you need to think….

    When you need to think….

    Distractions are ubiquitous, subtle and insidious. They have a way of stealing your attention without you realizing it, for weeks, months, or even years at a time. I am not trying to be hyperbolic.

    Any time you are distracted, your thinking is unconsciously shallow and limited. Distractions can be obvious, like being fully engrossed in a video game or movie. Or they can be subtle like having the radio on in the background.

    I find that any time I have any kind of distraction, I can’t be fully creative and strategic in my thinking.

    This became blindingly obvious to me on my commutes to work when I lived in Newport and drove to Los Angeles every day. Sometimes I would listen to audio books on the drive, and sometimes I would not listen to anything. When I had the radio or audio books playing in the background, I would rarely have a deep insight or creative thought. Conversely, almost every time I turned off all of the distractions interesting thoughts or ideas would bubble up. This deep thinking has enabled me to become much more effective in my life.

    Any time you have to make an important decision or you want to think strategically, I would highly recommend you eliminate every distraction. Put away the cell phone. Turn off the TV and radio. Sit in a quiet room with nobody and nothing around except you, a desk, and a blank piece of paper for capturing your thoughts.

    This is going to feel so uncomfortable when you do it that your mind will scream for entertainment and distraction. Resist the urge to give in if you don’t have an insight right away. Sit there and wait. The vision or strategy or next move will come to you.

  • Take Society as a Suggestion

    Take Society as a Suggestion

    Structure, framework, rules are good and necessary for society. But most people don’t realize that most of this is optional and you can opt out.

    It’s like someone who was born at sea on a sailboat, and spent the first 15 years of her life on the water. Imagine what this person would be like. Imagine the completely different norms, values, rules, and expectations she would have. The current situation you are in determines your perspective and framework for living your life. But it’s not the only possible framework and you have to decide for yourself what life you want to live.

    Dare to be different.

    Don’t be a sheep.

  • Growing In Life

    Growing In Life

    If you cannot be corrected without being offended, then you’ll never truly grow in life. – Professor Richard Feynman

    Professor Feynman is someone you should definitely get to know. I highly recommend his book Surely You’re Joking, Mr. Feynman.

  • You can do anything…

    You can do anything…

    But you can’t do everything. This is a lesson I constantly have to remind myself of because I am always tempted to push into the next project. You have the gifts to get anything done you want to get done… but only if you focus…

  • What is courage?

    What is courage?

    Courage: being terrified but still going ahead and doing what needs to be done.

    “The one who feels no fear is a fool. And the one who let’s fear rule him is a coward.” –Piers Anthony

    “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.” –Franklin D. Roosevelt

    I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain. -Dune

     

  • Practice Makes Perfect: Wrong

    Practice Makes Perfect: Wrong

    The expression people throw around is “practice makes perfect.” This is wrong because if you aren’t practicing perfectly then you are only reinforcing bad habits and wasting your time. The truth is, and your mindset should be, PERFECT PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT.

  • Your Focus

    Your Focus

    Focus on what you can control. There is no point in worrying about what is out of your control, like whether the economy is in a recession. Instead, take measure of what you can personally affect and take action to make your life better.

  • Strong, Smart, Brave

    I hope you are…

    Strong enough to stand on your own

    Smart enough to know when you need help

    Brave enough to know when to ask for it