A good question to ask yourself, especially when you are young, is who do you look up to and want to be like when you get older? Ideally you have at least a few people who can be good role models for you. It’s even better if you know these people personally and meet with them on a regular basis.
Once you have your short list of who you want to be like, the key then is to “act as if.” Ask yourself how this person would act in a given situation? What would she do with her free time? How would she treat other people? What kind of education would she receive? How would she dress? How disciplined and committed is she? You can model every aspect of your life around what this person or group of people would do.
And the interesting thing is time passes quickly and before you know it you are a peer among this group that you looked up to. It is a self-fulfilling prophesy. In the beginning you are aspiring to be like her and “acting” the part. In the end, you become that person.